Combining two (and only two) networking stars together into a single pillar – the precision of the Xin Metal together with the networking skills of the Yi Wood – Xin Mao (辛卯) is undoubtedly the gift of leverage.
Maximizing The Xin Mao (辛卯): The Gift of Leverage
In the ancient texts, the Xin Mao pillar is often depicted as a priceless antique, fragile but burnished to high perfection. This translates into an individual who holds high principles in life, someone who understands their own value.
While they may often project a serious and reserved exterior, there is no doubt that the Xin Mao is someone who possesses oodles of charm. Here’s why: this shiny and attractive Xin Metal sits on the Mao Branch, a Peach Blossom star which ups the likability quotient of the Xin Mao Day Master.
While all Xin Metal understands the power of leverage, this gift is particularly distilled within the Xin Mao pillar. The reason is because, this Xin Day Master sits on the singular energy of the master connector, the Yi Wood. Combined, the Xin Metal’s natural ability to shine and the Yi Wood’s social skills, allow you to move easily among a broad spectrum of social groups.
For the Xin Metal Day Master, this Yi Wood energy is also its Indirect Wealth energy – representing your ability to create opportunities by an instinctive understanding of the wants and needs of others. A rather descriptive way to elaborate on this point would be to refer to our first example of the antique. The owner may not need it, but the owner certainly wants it for the prestige it brings. This is how the Xin Mao uses its gift of leverage.
Maximizing this pillar is simple – making conscious use of your strategic networks to achieve your goals.
Like all Metal Day Masters, the Xin Mao is naturally strong-willed. As a Xin Mao Day Master, you are a notoriously meticulous strategist. These strengths are further enhanced with the ability to bounce back from setbacks, gifts of the Yi Wood’s strong survival instincts and perseverance.
Where is the Xin Mao (辛卯):
Create A Social Strategy: Xin Mao (辛卯) In the Year Pillar
With such an attractive pillar in your Year column, it is imperative to learn how to leverage off the power of social media to establish your brand presence, build customer relationships, support your sales campaigns and maintain customer loyalty.
(Writer’s note: Writing this next paragraph makes me feel a little silly. Surely everyone would know that by now. But for the sake of clarity, here we go…)
The core of leveraging off social media lies in having a social strategy. Even in this day and age, some companies seem to think that social media is just about posting. It’s not. It’s about engaging. And to do that effectively, you must have a social strategy in place to enhance searchability, grow your organic audience, create your own community and ultimately, improve sales.
Gaining Leverage In Negotiations: Xin Mao (辛卯) In the Month Pillar
The Xin Mao’s ability to instinctively size up the needs and wants of others, creates the makings of a master negotiator at work. Plus, you must know your own value before you can become a good negotiator.
Xin Mao or no Xin Mao, all of us do a lot of negotiations, especially at the workplace. Whether it is negotiating for a raise, or with a supplier, or distributing tasks for a project – we all negotiate in one way or another.
For the benefits of those of us without the Xin Mao pillar in our natal charts, here are some points to remember:
- Consider the person in front of you and what stimuli will help move him or her from pain to pleasure.
- Consider also how you can impress or intimidate the person in front of you. Sometimes, sharing a common interest, is a great avenue to leverage off.
- Be strategic – go after the long-term gains as opposed to the short-term satisfaction of a pyrrhic victory.
Overcoming Insecurity : Xin Mao (辛卯) In the Hour Pillar
The pairing of Metal and Wood together in a single pillar are not without its pitfalls. The clash between Metal and Wood creates an individual who is extremely sensitive and insecure. Even the most positive feedback can sometimes be misconstrued as negative criticism. This, in part, explains the reserved persona projected by the Xin Mao. Simply because of the fear of appearing vulnerable.
This aspect of the Xin Mao is most apparent in the Hour Pillar, which governs our thoughts, ideas, and ideals.
The good news is, there are ways to overcome these insecurities. Here are some methods shared by healthline.com (source: https://www.healthline.com/health/how-to-stop-being-insecure#affirm-your-value):
- Affirm your own value – all too often, we are very good at listing down our imperfections, while minimizing our own strengths. So start by taking inventory of the positive acts you make daily.
- Take care of yourself – lavish yourself with a little self-love and pampering, even if it is just 30 minutes a day.
- You don’t get to monopolize ‘awkward’ – we all have our awkward moments. Problem is, we seem to think that we are the only ones to suffer from the ‘awkward’ issues. While in reality, everyone has their fair share of those moments. So instead of beating yourself up over an awkward fumble, try to laugh it off.
- Challenge your negative thoughts – pro-actively challenging every negative thought that surfaces can be a huge step forward to break free from that negative cycle of self-loathing.
- Surround yourself with people who love you. Stress and constant strife can drive a Xin Mao crazy. Because the Xin Mao can be very dependent on their loved ones for emotional support, be sure to surround yourself with people who love and support you.
As always, a final caveat. Without the ability to see the full chart, I must stress that the suggestions in this article are broad recommendations based on a single pillar. To pinpoint specific issues or to co-create solutions tailor-made for you, please feel free to drop me a line.
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